I have been trying to figure out how to tell the story, recount the events of the emotional, spiritual, physical manipulation of my daughter and ultimately her rape. I don’t know if there is a ‘best’ way, so here goes… (as is the standard here, names are first letters only)
From about the fall of 2008 TR (the rapist) began a process that would eventually land him in prison.
It started by him becoming our daughter’s ‘big brother’. We liked him, he served in the ministry I am over. We liked his family, trusted them, enjoyed life with them. Secretly TR was making his move.
He began to tell K (our daughter) only he could understand her, only he knew what was best for her. He manipulated her away from us.
There were emails (undermining us as parents) we intercepted and confronted T about, he pushed back and refused to honor us.
There were text messages (sexual in content). TR told me his friend took his phone and did those. When I met with him about the text messages and emails he danced and danced.
I met with his father, he didn’t know how to handle it, didn’t want to handle it.
All the talking with TR was not correcting the behavior.
We limited/refused any interaction between TR and K.
He still found a way.
as parents we get praised for helping people out and then called out for not watching the rat bastard closer. Go figure.
S — thanks for continuing the story. It is not a fair or right “thing”. I am sorry you have had to go through it. Wish there was a magical thing to say and make it better.