This will take the form of a bit of a rant, so, thou hast been warned…
I am said to have single handedly taken away the family feel of our church.
Yesterday we had a friend visit us from out of state. She came in with my wife, but they quickly separated and she stood over by the coffee pots where all the people were. She was greeted by exactly 5 people. Talked to by exactly 5 people. 2 staff members, 2 staff members wives and an unknown person.
Our visitor was from the church we were at previously. Unprompted, she said, “This is a nice church, but they are not very friendly. Even though C_______ Church is a lot smaller, we have a lot more hand-shaking, smiling people.”
I guess I could have sucked the family feel from this place, but one would think that a few of the family-feel people would at least say, “Hello,” to a visitor.
We are making some much needed changes around here. Hopefully, we can help people be friendlier. I don’t guess I care if it feels like a family. I think I would rather us feel like friends.
For our friend, yesterday felt like crashing a family reunion.
C____ Church was indeed full of friendly, hand-shaking people – except for one little boy who wanted to fight!
friends are better than family anyway