No not relocating, moving. He has begun his moving forward with making S take time off. He met with S the day I left town to ask him to “pray” about this. It is for his own good and the good of S’s family.
That is pure garbage.
Now, he is accelerating the whole matter. I am not sure where it is going. I am not sure what to do.
My gut says it is time to meet with the chairman of the elders. I don’t know if he is safe. He is safer than E. If I try to stop E from making this power play and fail, then I guess it is the end of this blog because E will make his move on S and move me out at the same time.
If I let E bully someone else–someone for whom I serve as pastor and boss–what kind of real credibility do I have?
I don’t believe I have the track record with the lead elder to sway him to deal with E.
So if I go to M, I will likely lose my job. If I don’t, I may lose my soul.
God, where do I go?
You can get another job.
Would you like fries with that?
It strikes me that E is a bully because he is allowed to be. I have told you about my exploits especially in board meetings. Now I know that you can’t whisper that you are going to stomp his face if he doesn’t back off but it occured to me that you are partnered up with the greatest equalizer there is. I think someone like this needs to be confronted no matter what. You know it might be good to do one of those preaching/prayers. “E God has laid it on my heart to pray for you in regard to your desire to bully and manipulate people around you. Do you mind if we pray together?” Bullies rely on people’s fear to keep them passive. I say break out the bully pulpit!!
Z, I have thought many times that I wish I had your boldness. I am going to be bold as soon as I am able…next week.